Alone or Lonely

The cure for being alone, should that bother us, is to walk out our door and go to where the people are or to invite others over to our place. Voila! No more alone. The cure for lonely is not that easy. We have to first understand that we are living with certain myths. How we got them or why we believe in them is not the least bit important. Obliterating them is.The biggest myth is that we are somehow incomplete if we don’t have a jolly, adventurous group of friends or a significant other. This life, your life and mine, is about living and learning individually. Yes, we are all connected on a soul level but if you stub your toe, you are the only one that yells and curses. It is because physically, we are separate beings. We each have our own agenda and a to do list for this life.

We need to revel and celebrate our physical independence and at the same time we have to revere and celebrate our spiritual interdependence. If you don’t want to be alone, change it. That is simple but if you don’t wish to feel lonely than you must first dispel the notion that you are incomplete. You and I and everyone else are the best of friends and lovers on the main level of existence and we are all in the wardrobe room trying on different costumes. We will act like this at school, we’ll change to this at work, we’ll put this on when we want to get crazy and we’ll act like this when we want to experience lonely. We are students and actors and we are continually learning but we are never incomplete.

Lonely is powerless. Don’t play that part. Let your eternal, powerful inner self create your future and not your past. You have great power within you. Allow it to blossom. A true actor doesn’t give up or resign to a bad role. A good actor starts imagining a better role and starts practicing. Pick the role you want to play. Start practicing. Have fun. It’s showtime!

(C) 2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride


8 Responses to “Alone or Lonely”

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