Aunt Mary

My dear Aunt Mary died last night, God rest her soul. She was always there for me throughout my younger, wilder days and she was always an amazing example of positivity.

After the death of her husband and her youngest son money was tight and rather than bemoaning that fact she, as always, did something about it. She wrote on the inside of her checkbook holder the words “Is it necessary?” Every time she prepared to spend money she confronted herself with this question and answered it honestly. Sometimes it meant putting back half of what she she was going to buy and sometimes it just meant walking away.

Many times in my life her three words tapped me on the shoulder and not just about money. Was it necessary to stay mad? Was it necessary to avoid something difficult? Was it necessary to make a change? Was it necessary to grow up? Was it necessary to follow my heart?

What is necessary in your life? What are the necessary elements that you need to spend more time on instead of what you are spending time on now? How much of what you have is necessary?

I’m not saying that you should live like a monk, far from it, but every now and then take inventory of all the different aspects of your life and ask yourself what is necessary. You might be surprised at the answers.

Right now I’m sure that dear, sweet, loving woman is dancing with her husband, her youngest son, her sister and her parents and finding out that all that is necessary now is to love and to enjoy.

Maybe, just maybe, that’s all that is ever necessary. Thanks Aunt Mary!

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