Want to win?

September 16th, 2013

Would you be interested in a contest that costs you about fifty cents a week and pays off huge and you can’t lose? Sounds good but you are very skeptical I assume. Keep reading.

It goes like this. Every week you have a contest. That’s right, this is a contest that you run. Anyway, every week you search for a person that does something out of the ordinary. Maybe it’s you they do this for or maybe it’s for another person’s benefit or maybe they are just doing something really well.

You get this person’s name and you send a thank you note, a real paper and envelope and stamp, to the person themselves or to their boss or company. It will take a few minutes of your time but the payoff is huge. The payoff is that you will start going through your week looking for people that are doing something right. You will begin making a note of people who impress you with their dedication, expertise and kindness. Does this sound different from your regular week? For most of us, you bet it does!

The person that receives your note directly or through their boss or company is rewarded and their commitment is strengthened. Their positive impact on others grows. Personally, you will have a different outlook. When you start looking for the good in people, you will find it and be uplifted by it. And the world becomes a little brighter all because you spent about fifty cents and took a moment or two of your time to tell someone on a piece of paper they could cherish that you recognized their effort.

If you want to take this to a higher level, get together with a couple of friends and discuss your individual winners for the week. What a great focal point and conversation that would be. It’s a win, win,win for everybody.

(c)2013 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com
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In Charge

December 10th, 2012

(You are in Charge!)

If you were sitting at your computer and screen after screen of violins popped up, you could deduce with nearly 100% accuracy that you were doing it. If you were sitting alone in your car and the radio stations started to change to different ones you had preset, it would be a pretty good bet that you had something to do with it.

When you feel angry, unloved, upset or put upon, guess what? You are doing it. It may be by default. It maybe because you’ve got a damn good reason for feeling like that but no matter how good the reason, it’s your hand on the buttons. People can’t push our buttons, contrary to popular belief. People act a certain way and WE push the response button that we believe is justified. Sometimes (most times) there is little or no thought given to our response. We’ve learned that a certain reaction serves us well and it goes on auto pilot.

There is a secret to changing all of this. There is a secret to getting control of your emotions. The secret to responding not in a way you always have, not in a way that puts the other person in their place but in a way that best serves you each and every time is… THE POWER OF PAUSE AND CHOOSE.

When we were kids we were told to count to ten before we emotionally exploded. That was some of the best advice ever! It was the perfect P&C formula and guess what? It worked. Somewhere along the line we decided that if we paused, the other person had a chance to jump in and take control of the conversation so we kept talking and reacting. We became mere robots with pre programmed responses.

Do want to live your life as a free person? Do you want to be in charge of how you feel under any and all circumstances? Then start practicing P&C today. Pause and let your heart catch up with your mind and Choose the response that best serves you. Pause and give infinite intelligence a chance to speak through you. Choose your words and actions not out of anger or hurt but out of love and respect for yourself. It’s a whole new feeling and a very, very good one.

(c)2012 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Decisions

September 24th, 2012

(You are Wonderful!)

How do you make the right decision? You have gone back and forth, first thinking one way and then the other a hundred times. You’ve lit candles, flipped coins and tossed crumpled up paper into the wastepaper basket from a fair distance figuring if it goes in you’ve made the right choice. You really want to choose BUT what if you choose wrong? Lions and tigers and bears, oh my!

First of all, let’s get this straight. There is no award for making it all the way through life always guessing right. In fact I think there’s a penalty for that. Secondly, what looks at first glance to be the wrong choice can turn out to be the best choice you ever made. Thirdly, no matter how hard you pray, God will not make the choice for you but will absolutely, positively help you with whatever choice you do make. Fourthly, the only thing that is stopping you from making a choice is fear. Not fear of a bad outcome but fear of blame. Fifthly, sixthly and beyond; right, wrong or indifferent, you grow from each decision that you make. There is nothing else that grows you faster.

So, when a decision is looming, do the right thing, make a decision. Any decision is better than none. Not making a decision is an affirmation that you are weak. The longer you delay, the more you reinforce this weakness. Put it off long enough and you will paralyze yourself into not making any decision about anything.

So, how do you make the right decision? You set a deadline and you make a vow to yourself to make a decision before that time. When that time approaches, you go for it. That act signals to yourself and to the Universe that you are not someone to be trifled with. You are a person who makes decisions. And what happens if it’s the wrong decision? You take full responsibility and you grow some more.

(c)2012 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Diamonds

January 16th, 2012

You were not sent here to live an ordinary life. You were not sent here to just make it through unscathed. It would be like using a powerful computer to hold the door open. You were meant to create answers. You were meant to go into the diamond mine and figure out how to get the diamonds and not waste a whole life sitting at the entrance waiting for someone in the mine to throw you a tiny diamond.

However your life has been up until now, what matters is what you do today and tomorrow. Between right now and the end of your life you can rewrite your legacy. If there are wonderful things in your past you can highlight and build upon them. If your past is a little murky you can make the rest of your days so brilliant that the murkiness will be obliterated.

This is it. This is exactly the moment that the rest of your life starts. This is wet clay, a blank canvass, the first page of a new journal. Some day in the future you will look back at this week and either pass right over it or you will look back at this week and say “That was the week that I started.”

Two questions will surface if you decide to start. First, “What do I start?” The answer is; take a step toward who you dream of being. Second, “What if I fail again?” The answer is; this time you can’t fail.

There is no second chance on any yesterday. There is only a limited amount of first chances on the days in front of you. This one, right now, begs you to begin. Smile to yourself, commit and begin. A future you will be very happy that you did.

(C) 2012 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Pillow Talk

November 28th, 2011

What do you do when you’ve come to the end of your rope? What do you do when you find yourself at the end of your credit? Or maybe the end of a relationship. Or maybe you’ve been sick for too long. Or maybe all of your friends have disappeared. Or maybe you’ve just lost your sparkle. Or you can’t shake that mood. Or maybe you just can’t see anything positive coming up anytime soon. What do you do?

This may seem a little nutty but it works every time! First, write down on a piece of paper all the questions that you can’t find answers for right now. Second, go into your bedroom and close the door. Set a couple of pillows upright at the head of the bed and then put a piece of your clothing on the pillows. It doesn’t have to be an exact replica of you but make it seem good enough to imagine it is you. Third, put the paper with the questions in front of the pillows. Use all of your imagination and imagine that the pillows are you and you’ve written down those questions. See, imagine or visualize as best as you can.

Now pick up the paper and give your best, clearest advice on each question. There is no “you” answering these questions. The only “you” is sitting in front of you. When we give advice to someone in need, we automatically draw from something deep inside. There is great truth and clarity and insight there. We cannot do it for ourselves when we are upset or depressed but we can always do it for another. The truth is, we give great advice because we want to help others and we never judge another as harshly as we judge our self. We give unbiased advice to someone in need without ever bringing up something from their past but we rarely do it for ourselves.

Use your imagination, suspend your disbelief and open yourself with a positive expectation for the answers you seek. You really can help yourself. It is only when you run out of rope that you learn that you are truly a creator of solutions. Get the answers. Make the changes.

(C) 2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Life’s Choices

October 31st, 2011

If you are blissfully happy with the direction your life is going, keep going and be joyful and thankful of that fact but if you just want to make it through this day, this month, this year, then you are in the greatest danger because sooner or later you will come to the awful realization that your day, month, year, life could have been a whole lot happier.

The greatest freedom we have is the ability to choose our attitude on our life’s journey. By choosing the highest, most uplifting attitude, our journey changes significantly. There is a tremendous difference between riding on the roof of a train in the dead of winter and riding inside in a warm comfortable seat. Yes, the destination is the same but the journey is so very different. The greatest effect we can have on our life’s journey is our choice of a better attitude.

Want to show everyone how upset you are? Or maybe you want to show everyone how broken you are? Or maybe you want to show everyone how you have suffered? Well, it will take a certain attitude and a certain posture and a certain willingness to be devoid of any joy whatsoever. It will work and they will get it but what have you sacrificed? An hour,a day or more of happiness? You will never have that back! What is a moment of happiness worth? Why rob that from yourself?

Resolve right now to change. There is nothing more important than embracing attitudes that make you feel good. Embrace love. Think of all who have loved you and those you have loved. Embrace caring. Remember how good caring makes you feel. Embrace hope. See how hope brightens your world and future. Embrace pleasure. Feel your senses come alive. Embrace lightness. Release those thoughts that weigh you down. Embrace gratitude. Nothing starts or sustains your joy better. Embrace how you look. Your clay is still wet and there is still time to sculpt. Embrace forgiveness. EVERYONE makes mistakes. Embrace prayer and meditation. These are the keys to the kingdom. Physically embrace those you love and be totally present when you do.

Your journey improves the very second that you do. It is your choice to be happy right now or to put it off until later. Now is better.

(C) 2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Rose Bush

August 22nd, 2011

Like the rose bush?
We are all on a path of self improvement although at times it may not seem like it. Like the rose bush, our life goes towards blossoming and not back towards barren. In the dead of winter it may seem that the bush is dead, incapable of life but with the spring rains and longer days suddenly leaves and buds come forth and life is very evident. Our lives will at times seem barren and lifeless. It may be for a winter or a moment or for a decade or more.

We may complain about not having a life. We may cry because the fruits of our labor seem to have not come this year or for a few years. We may even contemplate giving up. Can a rose bush give up? No. The rose bush must grow and so must you. The rose bush must respond to its environment and so must you. The rose bush will grow better in some locations and so will you. The rose bush must wait for its environment to change but NOT YOU!!

Yes, you are like a rose bush but you are so much more. If you want to change you can. If you want a better environment, you can create it. You can turn your dark winter into a bright spring with a thought. A rose bush can’t. You can decide right now to blossom. A rose bush has to wait. You can bring your beauty to the world. A rose bush has to wait until the world comes to it. Yes, you have a lot in common with a rose bush but you are so much more. You can change. You can decide right now to be bigger, better, greater, more loving, more grateful, more giving and it will begin because you will it to be so.

You were given wings and not roots. Fly above your worries and tonight when you go to sleep dream of being greater than you are. Tonight the rose bush will dream the same. It will dream of being you.

(C) 2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

And the answer is…

April 25th, 2011

Are you worrying? Are you worrying about more than one issue? The answer to these two questions is usually a resounding YES! Do you feel guilty about worrying? Do you feel that you should be more positive, more reliant on faith? Usually another yes right here. The most important question however is How do I stop Worrying? And the answer is …

Okay, I’ll get to that in a minute but first I want to congratulate you for worrying. That’s right, congratulate you. You see, if you weren’t so involved, so caring, so responsible you wouldn’t be worrying like you do. If you didn’t desire a better way of living for yourself and others, you’d have nothing to worry about right now. But you do worry and you do care and you do fear things getting worse and you do worry about the effect of that on you and those you love. Congratulations, you are a wonderful, caring human being.

I’m not about to give you the old think positive and everything will be positive. I personally think that doing only that is a bunch of fertilizer but what I will tell you is …

Okay, I’ll get to that in a moment but first I want to let you know that nothing is hopeless, nothing is beyond your power to influence it. The issues that are in your life are in your life because you can actually affect them. Maritime law in Somalia is not a worry for you for the simple fact that you cannot influence it in any way with your skills and your access right now but the issues that are in your life are there because you can influence them. Your worries are very real and a very important part of your life. You can’t just erase them with some hocus pocus and nor should you. The answer to your worrying is…

Here, finally, is the answer. You kept reading to this point because you know me and /or my writings and you knew that I would not leave you without an answer. You knew that something was coming that would have some value. In other words, you EXPECTED an answer from me and that is the main reason that you are getting it. Expectation of a good solution is the very first step in getting it. Worrying is good but it is only good as a indicator of what you need to fix. Once something has caused you to worry, thank the worry and let it go. Holding on to it is like holding on to a screaming smoke alarm, pretty soon it will drive you crazy. The smoke alarm was never meant to be the focus. It is the signal that something needs fixing. Put it down and EXPECT to fix the problem NOT the smoke alarm. Worrying isn’t your problem. Don’t work on it! What are you worrying about? Work on that. EXPECT a solution. Keep going. Take action. EXPECT a solution. You can do it. Take all the time you need. Patience+expectation+action-worry=SOLUTION!
When you expect a solution and take action, it has to show up. That’s the secret.

(c)2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Do you still have the flame?

April 18th, 2011

Imagine a pile of firewood. Now imagine all that could be done with that firewood, cooking, heating, melting ore, boiling water for steam, etc. The potential of a pile of firewood is almost unlimited but what if there is no flame, no spark to ignite it? In that case the firewood, perfect as it may be, will just rot away.

The firewood is your dreams and goals. The flame is your action. No matter how incredible and definitive your goals are (they are, aren’t they?) without action they will just rot away. Get used to setting goals. Set a goal for what you want to accomplish in the next hour. Write it down and take action. Do it again for the following hour. Write it down and take action.What do you want to do with this month, year or life? Write it down and take action. Oh, I hear you, you are one of those “It will all work out for the best” kinda people. Well, let me ask you …is your life as good and fulfilling as it could be? If it is, congratulations. If you think it could even be a tiny bit better, you need goals (firewood) and action (flame).

Most of us fear to take action for one of two reasons. We either took action and failed miserably and locked that door or we refuse to take action because if we do, we can no longer blame someone else or some outside force for things not going as we planned. BUT, what if you took action and it really worked out better than you ever imagined? What if you took action and your life instantly improved by a measurable amount? What if you really stuck you neck out and went for it and it worked out? What if you succeeded in the next thing you took action on? IT CAN HAPPEN!!

Maybe you think that you failed too many times in a business or a relationship or a diet or an idea and you never want to go through that again. Well if that is the case, go climb into a coffin because life is over for you. BUT, if you still have even the smallest flame burning inside of you, go for it again. Dust off your dreams, refresh your goals, throw doubts out the window, duct tape the little naysayer voice in your head and TAKE ACTION! Believe in yourself again. Believe in yourself maybe for the first time. Embrace your life and its gazillion of possibilities. Forget positive thinking and concentrate on positive action. There will be plenty of time for positive thinking later. Right now you have to dream of what could be. Right now you have to begin. How do you really want to live? Go for it. How do you really want to love? Go for it? Who do you really want to be? Go for it. What do you really want to do? Go for it. Take a deep breath…now exhale. The rest of your life just started. Go for it.

(c)2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com

 

Let Spring Inspire You

March 21st, 2011

If you are sitting in the middle of a toxic dump, I don’t care if you are meditating and eating organic and drinking 8 to 10 glasses of pure water every day, you are going to be very negatively affected by your surroundings. If we found ourselves in such a place our top priority would be to get out of there as quickly as we could by whatever means possible. How is it then that we voluntarily allow ourselves to be in the company of toxic people? How is it then that we surround ourselves with every bit of bad news from the local to the international level.

We know more about atrocities committed thousands of miles away than we know about who needs a helping hand within five blocks of us. We have to change. We have run so far away from the word selfish that we have forgotten how to take care of ourselves. We must start working on ourselves. It’s not about pounds and Pilates, it’s about self respect and self love. Who are we going to teach or what are we going to teach if we don’t live our beliefs? We believe in love and joy and happiness but are we living it? Are we projecting it?

Get rid of the toxic people in your life. Start living like you want to live. Live your beliefs. Stop being unkind to yourself. Stop putting yourself last. Open your self to receiving. Ask for help. Stop being afraid of what someone else might think. It is the first day of spring and we need to start blooming!

(c)2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride www.PatrickInspires.com