May 23rd, 2016
Drama is a over exaggeration of a life event. Sure it looks great on the big screen or stage where we often recognize in the actors that which we can’t see in ourself. Take for instance a play where a child disappoints a parent and the parent reacts as if they have just lost the will to live.
How many times have we blown out of proportion our reaction to an innocent or an off handed remark? How many times have we given an oscar worthy performance when we felt ignored by someone we love? How many times have we become even more dramatic when we are told that we are being too dramatic?
There is no place in our life for personal drama. All it shows is that we have lost our faith in being able to explain our reaction to an event in words from our heart. Just like spanking seems so much more efficient then taking the time to talk and educate, drama too is a non-loving response.
We don’t get into personal drama because it feels good, quite the contrary it feels more and more draining the longer it goes on. Sure, in the beginning it seems clever and warranted but as it grows it starts needing lies and exaggerations to keep it from becoming transparent. Our voice, our demeanor and our posture must also fall in line with the farce.
There is no way to stop the personal drama of others but there is every possibility of ridding yourself of this toxic reaction. Resist the temptation of personal drama. Embrace reality. Embrace the facts. Speak your feelings after you have centered yourself. There is no need to ever become an actor in your relationships. Over reacting is not communication. It’s a ploy to manipulate another person.Be you, wonderful, compassionate, loving you. Drama on the stage is for entertainment. Drama in your personal life is a childish form of communication and there’s no oscar for that.
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December 29th, 2014
For far too long we have communicated with our unhappiness. We have learned that if we mope about, if we look downtrodden, if we look upset or agitated, someone will eventually ask us what is wrong.
We have learned not to announce what hurts us. We have learned not to respond to unkind words or gestures. We have learned to walk away rather than stand and correct someone.
Instead we look down, assume a poor posture and avoid eye contact. Monosyllabic answers can put the finishing touches on our portrayal of someone who is hurt. “Oh, please ask us why we look like this!”
Can we please unlearn this? Can we learn to speak of our hurt when it is felt rather than assuming something worthy of a theatrical performance? Can we drop the drama and speak up?
Can we learn to speak up for ourselves right away? Can we learn not to be dissuaded by the reply to our new found strength? “Oh, I was just joking” “Boy, you are sensitive” ” You’re making a big deal out of nothing” “You’ve got it all wrong” “You misunderstood what I meant”.
When our lack of courage to speak up becomes drama instead, that drama is a sign of weakness. That drama is the tell tale sign of one who cannot summon the strength to confront the issue, resolve the issue one way or another and put it behind them. That drama is the bit of debris left over from a crisis that the weak cling to, forgetting that they won’t drown if they let it go.
Let this be the year of getting stronger. Let this be the year that your feelings are not hidden behind sugar coated words or theatrics. Let this be the year that you speak your truth every time. Be kind but be honest. Now is a very good time to start being who you always wanted to be.
To a stronger, drama free you in 2015! Cheers!
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