November 19th, 2012
(You are Healing!)
OMG! You made a mistake! You said, did, wrote, acted out, unloaded, lost it, overreacted or just plain chose poorly and now you feel bad. It may have happened a minute ago or decades ago but you are still suffering. Nothing can make you feel as worthless or as crummy as when this mistake comes to mind and what’s worse, there’s a few of them!
Give Yourself A Break. Yeah, you. You have forgiven others over and over again but for some reason, it seems impossible to forgive yourself. Every time you refuse (that’s right, it’s not that you can’t forgive yourself. It’s that you refuse to do it!) to forgive yourself you add another link to the chain that you carry. Pretty soon any forward progress is impossible in your life because of the weight of all the links in your chain. Oh, you’ll say that luck isn’t with you or the right opportunities haven’t come your way but you know it’s the chain.
Today, right now, you can make that chain disappear. You can start by Giving Yourself A Break. You can decide right now to be kind to yourself. You can get rid of the strict teacher, father, mother, priest, minister voice and allow the the healing, loving, compassionate, caring, loving voice to be the dominant voice by simply listening to one voice to the complete exclusion of the other. (You’ve got some experience at that already)
Whatever mistake you made, it is in the past. You may still be paying for it in some way or another but you don’t have to hate yourself for it. It happened, you take full responsibility and you allow it to be an experience and not a whip. Close your eyes and mentally hug yourself. Soothe yourself. Tell yourself that as of today, the chains are off. Tell yourself that you can’t change even the smallest thing in the past but starting today, you are going to live the most loving, compassionate life you can lead and every time that you feel like beating yourself up, you’re going to mentally hug yourself and know that you deserve that break. Repeat and repeat and be free.
(c)2012 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com
March 1st, 2010
“The price of inaction is far greater than the cost of making a mistake” -Meister Eckhart 1260-1328.
Every day we have a multitude of decisions to make and by these decisions we shape our life, or so we believe. I believe that the vast volume of what we don’t decide has an equal or even larger impact on our life. We are so terrified of making a mistake, of guessing wrong, of being ridiculed, of feeling regret, remorse or guilt that we have become frozen. Bad jobs continue to be filled, bad bosses continue to be tolerated, bad relationships continue to be ignored. It is time to bring the heat of passion to thaw us out.It’s time to feel the exhilaration of taking a chance. It’s time to live.
Dare to be wrong. Dare to make a mistake. Focus on a positive outcome but realize that some mistakes are teachers and some mistakes make the very best stories and some mistakes are inedible and you just have to throw them away and start over again. But all of this time you will know that you are alive.
What is going or feeling right in your life? When is the last time you really celebrated that? What is going or feeling wrong in your life? When was the last time you tried to change it? Could your life be better or more fulfilling? What would it take? I don’t know is the answer of frozen people.
Make a list of the changes that you would like to see in the world, your country, your community, your family, your relationships, your health, your job, your money, your security and your spirituality and each day take a chance on making one of those better. Don’t let a past mistake or the fear of a future one stop you. Live the life you want. You’ve got what it takes.
©2010 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
www.PatrickInspires.com