Step One
No one knows what you are going through. Oh, you may have a close friend or family member to confide in but they are not you 24/7 only you are.
You may have trouble with physical pain, emotional pain or spiritual pain or all three. Or they may alternate every day. Maybe you have relationship or lack of relationship problems. Maybe you have money problems. Maybe you are afraid that you are losing your mind.
It could be that something in your past won’t leave you alone. It could be that you are terribly lonely or maybe you are not at all happy with your body. Or maybe it’s depression, fear or anxiety or all three.
Maybe some of these things torment you once in a while or maybe they are your constant companion. Whatever it is, whether I mentioned it above or not, it can be better.
Yes, you’ve tried and tried to improve the quality of your life. You’ve chased more solutions than you can remember. You are a good person and you feel that you don’t deserve all this and you are right.
There is no magic wand that is going to instantly solve every problem for you but there is a way to make your life better. There is a way to look forward to the next day and the next and the next.
Step One –
Stop complaining. It doesn’t matter how true or justified you think your issues are, complaining never lets your problems cool off. Every complaint breathes new life into your problems. Believe me, your problems do not need any more reinforcement.
The other thing about complaining is that other people get very tired of hearing about other people’s problems and mostly tune them out. Everyone wants to talk about their problems and not yours.
You can state facts e.g. “I don’t feel well” “I need help” “This thing is bothering me” ” I am lonely” etc. But it is unnecessary and it is upsetting to your own psyche to constantly be describing and repeating in detail every single thing that bothers you.
Complaining about things on the other side of the world or outside of your influence while you are dealing with your issues is silly. There will ALWAYS be something and someone in this world that you can get upset about. Resist that temptation with all your might. Your complaining about issues outside of your control or influence changes nothing, a complete waste of time and energy.
If you are complaining about what happened in the past you are robbing this moment of your full and undivided attention and you are going to need your full and undivided attention if you wish to improve.
Remember, if you state it, it stays a fact. If you dwell upon it, it may easily morph into a complaint. Be vigilant. Your improvement depends upon it.
I don’t want to make this too long so tomorrow I will describe Step Two.
Love the Light Within. Patrick
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