Seeds

August 7th, 2017

How would you feel if I told you that you are amazing? How about if I followed up with you are also beautiful/handsome, perceptive, intelligent, magnificent, strong, funny, loving, wise and incredibly clever?

Maybe you would agree with some but most would be denied and that denial would sweep the agreed upon ones into the “soon forgotten” pile too.

Our problem is not a lack of education, status, money, luck or any other possession or accomplishment. Our problem is that we don’t really know our true nature. Our parents, peers, teachers and leaders were too insecure to tell us of our greatness. How would they control us if we were told we were greater than they perceived themselves to be?

We were admonished not to be prideful. Those who had thought highly of themselves but had failed at some task were gleefully paraded in front of us as prime examples of thinking too highly of one’s self. 

As children, lacking the physicality and strength of adults, we were constantly reminded of our inferiority, a temporary condition that should have been extinguished by growing older but the early conditioning kept us still feeling inferior even as adults.

In a few short written words I cannot hope to undo the years of negative conditioning that you have been subjected to but maybe, just maybe, these few words will be as seeds, seeds that start to grow and soon become the dominant strain edging out all others.

Tend to the garden of your spirit. Do not try to get rid of all the negativity. Frequently flood yourself with words and thoughts of things that feel better. For just a few moments each day imagine that your greatness is the truth and soon you will feel the powerful force that lives within you agreeing with you.

People seek God outside of themselves and should they find it in another person or pet or book or scenic panorama, they still refuse to see its twin inside of themselves BUT if they would, even for a moment, accept the possibility of their true greatness, they would sprout the seeds of untold happiness.
 

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 Patrick McBride 
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Two things

July 24th, 2017

Two things we need to know:

1) Life is not fair. 2) We are not in control.

We see an adorable picture of a baby snow lion and we are happy. We watch her mother kill a baby goat to feed her and we are sad. The killing is very fair for the snow lion but very unfair to the goat’s parents. A fire races through the forest and displaces the homes of many creatures. The burned off undergrowth allows seeds, no longer blocked from the sunshine to grow, feeding other creatures. Fair or Unfair? 

Everything that happens and I mean EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS has some benefit somewhere but we are so narrowly focused on our life and our plans and our blueprint for our life that anything contrary to that becomes a source of depressing or angry negativity. Why?

It is because in reality we are not in control, never were never will be. We usually find some kind of ambiguous teaching that covers our hurts with some kind of sweetness or promises and we cling to it like a drowning sailor clinging to a styrofoam ice chest. 

Okay, so our plans won’t always work out. We will be visited often by the unfairness of life and we are not in control of any of this. What are we supposed to do???

1)We are to accept the reality of each moment. Whatever is happening in this moment is reality. To wish the reality of the moment was different is to believe in a mental fairytale. That fairytale offers us a ridiculous, temporary respite and leaves us powerless to deal with what is truly happening.

2) Once we accept that we are not in control (if not -try changing the weather or your kidney function) we must ask the question -who is? The answer is that there is something that is so much greater than us that it defies naming or understanding. If fact once we name it or say we understand it, we have gained nothing except a bigger ego.

1) Life is unfair only because we can’t see all of it and if we can’t see all of it, we can’t understand any of it.

2) Something beyond our understanding is in control and all we can do is to have gratitude for what feels good and to not give up when it feels not so good.

You can do it.

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 Patrick McBride 
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Paddles

July 5th, 2017

Imagine that you are looking down at a canoe or kayak that was custom made especially for you. You step down into it and it fits you perfectly. You push off into the current and you notice that the workmanship is perfect. The material is perfect. The shape is perfect. It is capable of anything.

You see something interesting over to your left and decide to check it out. You look around inside your perfect craft and freak out! There are no paddles!!!! You are at the mercy of the current. Is that the sound of a waterfall up ahead???

Take a breath. 

Many of us feel like we have no control over where life is taking us. We are in life’s current and it’s taking us to places and situations without our consent.We feel helpless and we are always in fear of the waterfall we imagine lies ahead. We are not living. We are just holding on.

Take a breath.

If we were to step out of our craft we would soon see that all of our fears are unfounded. The current that we thought was all controlling is merely waist deep. All we have to do is step out and look at the situation.

Take a breath.

When we go into our mind looking for answers and see none we freak out and imagine all the worst. Sometimes we just need to step out of our thoughts to realize that our problems are only waist deep. Paddles? They were always there but they were hanging on the outside of the craft and we couldn’t see them until we got out for a moment.

All it takes is a pause. The fear evaporates. The control comes back to us and the journey continues. It all starts when consciously we…

Take a breath.

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 Patrick McBride 
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Hope

June 26th, 2017

Where is hope? Does it shine like a star in the dark night sky just waiting for us to fix our gaze upon it? Is it the precious diamond hidden deep within the earth that is only uncovered by digging deeply in the dark? Is it the elusive firefly that sparkles briefly here and then there?

Hope is in the dark night sky and in the dark earth and in the evening dusk. Hope is everywhere. It is in the bannister we reach for when we stumble on the stairs. It is in the pill that promises relief. It is in the hug that says we are not alone.

Hope is invisible and yet we have all felt it. We have felt the gentle push helping us to take another step. We have felt the cool breeze that dries our tear soaked cheeks. We have felt the surprising arrival of an uplifting memory that made us smile when we thought we could never smile again.

Hope stands defiantly in the face of certainty. Hope reminds us of other victories and miracles. Hope brings the sudden inspirations. 

Hope doesn’t need to be summoned to our side. It appears on its own, knowing that we are too weak to call to it or to believe in it.

If the darkness seems endless and the future non existent it is not because life and love have abandoned us. It is because our suffering has closed our eyes. Hope comes to open the eyes that do not see, to open the heart that is deemed too broken to function, to hold the hand that feels empty. 

Hope asks for nothing in return except to be grateful because hope knows that being grateful is the sign that our courage has returned.   

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 Patrick McBride 
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The Wave

June 19th, 2017

What happened to the wave? 
It was the late nineteen sixties and all we thought about was love. It was in the songs. It was in the art. It was everywhere, man. We knew that love felt good, real good and we knew that hate felt real bad so we focused on love and it was everywhere, man. It was groovy and it was a wave that was washing over the whole world. 

We were on top of that wave, man and we were high. We wanted that wave to wash it all clean. We wanted that wave to change the world. We knew that our wave was love and we knew that there was nothing more powerful than love so we must be riding the most powerful wave in history.

And then… something started to change. We loved everything, man but we found things we didn’t love. We didn’t love people hurting other people. We didn’t love people who hurt the earth. We didn’t love… well, we didn’t love many things and… the wave got smaller. 

​​​​​​​We told ourselves that we were going to take a short break from the wave so we could deal with some of the stuff that we didn’t love and…the wave got even smaller. We agreed that the wise ones loved everything but we couldn’t do that right now. We had to fight some things, man. And… the wave got still smaller.

We started choosing sides on many issues and we wanted to crush the opposition and when we did it felt like we were high, man. Love was cool but winning arguments and fights and hooray for our side was like being on a wave too, right?

Time flew by and we had children and we wanted to show them the wave but all we could find were ripples. Never mind, man. Let me show you some groovy gadgets that we would have loved to have had back in the day.

Back in the day we got some things wrong but we got one thing very right. There is nothing that is more powerful than love. The ripples that are left are because of the wise ones. They are still doing it, man. But it’s time to help them. It’s time to bring more love into our lives. It’s time to spread more love. It’s time to talk about, write about and sing about love again, man. 

It’s not about you and me on our own yoga or meditation mats doing our own thing. It’s about us thinking about love, thinking about what we are for instead of what we are against, thinking about what’s beautiful. Yeah man, that’s it, let’s start thinking more about what’s beautiful. What a wave that would be.   

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 Patrick McBride 
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Newsitis

May 22nd, 2017

Newsitis is the crippling disease that affects more and more people every year. They wake up thinking they are feeling good, even grateful for being alive and beauty seems to abound. Unknowingly, they walk out to the kitchen and without a moment’s hesitation their hand reaches for the remote and instantly they are stricken by newsitis. 

Their blood pressure rises, their forehead wrinkles and their eyes squint. The thoughts of gratitude and beauty, so fresh in their minds, are eaten away by every word from the TV. They turn from the TV and fire up their phone and laptop. More of the same! Confirmation of the sad, sad state of the world. 

Memorizing the news articles that are most inline with their cognitive bias, they look forward to spreading their outrage and distaste to anyone who will agree. Newsitis, a terrible affliction. Is there a cure?

Yes! The great saints, masters and enlighten ones have been touting the cure for millenniums. They don’t get much air time but their words can be found by any seeker. Their words are few but the explanation of their words are many. Forget the explanations and just read the few. Many are like this…

There is great love, light and beauty in this world. Focus on these things. 

Stay away from comparisons. You and everyone else are going to be different at different times. 

If you can’t find harmony, create it.

Don’t look back with today’s eyes and experience and judge your past. You didn’t have the ability to see the same signs back then as you do now.

Love everyone. Not for them but for you.

Know the difference between the good passion of creating and the destructive passion of destroying. They both feel alive.

When you get hurt, you can grow from the lesson without holding on to the pain.

Loving yourself means choosing better thoughts.

Never make a bad time worse.

Smile more. Frown less.

Newsitis strikes the unconscious more often than any other group. Don’t catch it and if you catch it don’t spread it. The right thoughts can cure you. Sit still with thoughts of love and betterment until it passes.You are love and love is your immunity.  

  

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 Patrick McBride 
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Receiving

May 15th, 2017

“Give, give of your money, give of your time. Give and you will be rewarded” they say but it is unnecessary to work on this because you do give. You have been a very giving person your whole life. You give to many people who have less than you and even to those who have more than you. You give advice. You give prayers and tears and food and clothes. You give and that’s not the problem. 

The problem is that you suck at receiving. You are terrible at it. You can’t even take a compliment without diminishing it with your response. You say you want more so that you can give more but what about you?

They say if you take you are selfish. If you want for yourself you are self centered. If you put yourself first you are narcissistic and ego driven. Bullhockey!

If you are a parent and you sacrifice everything and I mean everything for your children what is the message you give them? “I am not worth it and other people are. When you grow up remember to sacrifice everything because you won’t be worth it either.”

If you are in a relationship and you give, give, give, give, give without receiving what happens? You become bitter and depressed and the other person gets your permission to be selfish and take, take, take.

If you are at work and you give endlessly without compensation what happens? You are expected to give more and more until you finally burn out and are easily replaced.

The time has come for you to practice receiving with open arms. The time has come for you to say “Thank you!” and then shut up when someone compliments you. The time has come for you to tell your children “Excuse me but I need to do something for me”. The time has come to get a new job because since you have been giving 150% every day if you scale back to 100% it’s going to seem like you are goofing off. Get a new job and give in relationship to your compensation.

If you wake up and find that you have been giving in your relationship a whole lot more than you have been getting it’s time to say “Hasta La Vista, Baby” because that person didn’t care enough to know that you had been giving so much and getting back so little and they were selfishly okay with that.

Today is the first day of the rest of your life may be a trite saying but it is also irrefutably true. You are not wrong for wanting more but you are wrong for accepting less. Open your heart, your mind and your soul to accepting all that life is trying to give you. Today is the day that you start unabashedly receiving all the blessings, grace and love you deserve. You can only give what you have and starting today it’s time for you to have more. Open and stay open. 

Remember, you are a very, very good person who is amazing and wonderful and truly deserving of all the blessings life has for you. 

  

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Hope

May 8th, 2017

There is never a dawn that is darker than the night. Each and every dawn brings light. Sometimes it’s cloudy and heavily overcast but it’s always brighter than the night that preceded it. Sometimes the dawn comes with such clarity and brilliance that it stuns the senses and we stand in awe of such magnificence, warmth and beauty.

There is something else in our life that is just as remarkable as the dawn. It rises when we do and sometimes it is foremost in our thoughts and sometimes it rests quietly in the background.

It is in our life to dispel the darkness just like the dawn does. It shows up without a ritual, a spell or even a wish. It stands ever ready to pull us from the darkness. It is a force that shines through impossibility like the dawn shines through the clouds. It is called by many names in many cultures and we call it Hope.

Hope allows us to look at the darkness and to feel that something will be along soon to make it disappear. Hope is that feeling that disputes what we see, what we are told. Hope is the power that turns our thoughts and imagination to possibilities instead of perceived inevitabilities. Hope is the unseen hand that pulls us from the edge of the abyss. 

When we throw ourselves into the sea of despair, hope is the life jacket we forget we had on. Shun it again and again and hope will still show up. Let reason and logic cast it aside and it will return like the invincible fighter it is. 

When the deepness of the darkness isolates us from finding a way out it is hope that lights the candle. A candle will not illuminate our whole path but it will illuminate the next step and the next step after that. And when those steps lead us to the dawn of a new, better day, hope will again rest quietly in the background, always ready.

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What’s Wrong?

May 1st, 2017

We are obsessed with “What’s Wrong?” and it’s ruining our lives. “What’s wrong with my job?”. What’s wrong with my child, my parent, my co-worker, my dishwasher, my resume, my shoes, my etc., etc.,etc.?

We want to be ahead of any failures. We want to head troubles off at the pass. We want to nip things in the bud. In other words, we want to deal with little problems and not big ones. Somehow we believe that if we stay constantly alert to “What’s Wrong?” we will catch that cold before it turns into pneumonia or we will get new tires before we have a flat. And you know what? We are right.

We do catch things early and we do sidestep more ominous problems and we do see signs and portents about our relationships, our job and even our gums. We get so good at this that we decide early on to be even more vigilant, to fish with an even a finer net. Our thinking is that done perfectly, we can catch everything early and big problems will be obsolete.

There are two major difficulties with this thinking. First, every crisis in our life does not give a warning. People and relationships die suddenly. Misfortune comes like a sudden, sunny day thunderstorm. Stuff happens without warning. Secondly, staying constantly on alert and watching for “What’s Wrong?” blinds us completely to “What’s Right?”.

When we no longer focus on “What’s Right?” we miss the triggers and prompts for gratitude. We miss the beauty. We miss the miracles. We miss the extraordinary. We miss those things that start out badly but turn out marvelously. We miss letting some things work out on their own. Pretty soon we stop missing what we are missing and the world, our world, turns an ugly shade of gray.

​​​​​​​We live in a world of amazing people and miraculous events. We also live in a world of terribly acting people and horrific events. This is life and one way or another we are destined to live it all, the good and the bad. Be aware of the bad. Be oh so ever grateful for the good and get a net with bigger holes so that you can just let some things pass right through you. You will soon find that sometimes letting something go is way easier than trying to figure out “What’s Wrong?” with it.

Remember that anytime you need a little boost, a little more light in your world all you have to do is ask yourself “What’s Right?” and you’ll find plenty.

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 Patrick McBride 
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Inner Help

April 24th, 2017

Have you ever dived into the ocean’s waves or rode the whitewater down a river? It is so much fun until suddenly a strong current upends you or heads you towards the rocks. Fear grips you because of the dire situation but also because at that moment you realize that a force much greater than you is calling the shots. What do you do?

Your mind can’t think fast enough to help you so you instantly rely on some inner part of you to come to your aid. And you know what? It always does. You move or turn or instinctively do the right thing and all is saved.

Now let’s leave the water and go to your regular daily life. All is good. There is some fun to be had. Everything is under your control and then suddenly there is an unexpected loss, a crisis of biblical proportions, an unexpected diagnoses. Fear grips you because of the dire situation but also because at that moment you realize that a force much greater than you is calling the shots. What do you do?

You think and then you think some more. You research how other people coped. You ask friends. You replay mental videos over and over again. And you think some more. And then you think some more. 

Is this what you did when the wave turned you upside down or when the current dragged you in the opposite direction or when you were headed for the rocks? No. You shut off your thinking and let a more powerful, smarter, quicker part of you decide what to do. 

We each have a mind that works hand in hand with our thoughts and memories. It keeps files on everything we have ever experienced and is always ready to produce the files to support what we are thinking about at the moment. But there is a greater part of us. Call it what you will, the higher self, the soul, the spirit, etc. This is the real you. This is the power plant that fuels every other part of you. You can tap into this amazing source anytime you want with practice. What kind of practice?

Practice not distracting yourself when you are alone. Practice serenity by listening and not always talking.  Practice taking momentary breaks from thinking about what you have to do. Practice creating a space for the inner part of you to become familiar to you. Practice meditation. Practice trust in your inner power. Practice being present in this moment.

Remember that your inner self is always immune to fear. Fear is a thing of the mind not of the spirit and the greater part of you is your spirit.

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 Patrick McBride 
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