You Failed!

January 27th, 2014

“You have failed!”
Those dreaded words we have feared throughout school, in business, in relationships but most of all as an over all judgement on our life. We had and maybe still have nightmares about those words being spoken to us by teachers or bosses or lovers or all three. But who gets to tell us that we have failed at life?

Certainly not a teacher, boss or lover. They may have known us for quite some time but were they with us every second of our life? Could they have missed the highlights of life? Of course they could have so let’s rule them out. How about parents? Same answer. Okay, so who can we trust to pass judgement on our life?

Certainly not someone who was there for just a part of it. Certainly not someone who was uninformed as to what all of our thoughts and intentions were. Certainly not that voice inside our head that changes with every thought. Then who is qualified to make that judgement? God. Qualified? Definitely!

Okay, so if God is the only entity in existence that can judge our success or failure then we can absolutely refuse to pay attention to anyone else including that voice in our head. And if our life really can’t be judged until the end and our spirit is immortal then judgement is going to have to wait for a really long time. In the meantime, there are corrections and guidance given for eternity. And after eternity, even if we are a really slow learner, judgement of our existence should look pretty good.

All we have to do is pay attention to the corrections and heed the guidance and who knows after all is said and done, we all might be on the honor roll.

(c)2014 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
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Devour life

January 20th, 2014

“It’s not working!”. You have tried to live a good life. You have bought countless books, read innumerable articles, spent endless hours on the internet and still… it’s not working! You changed your diet, started exercising a bit, started thinking positive, focused on your heart center and still… it’s not working! What more can you possibly do?

Give up! That’s right, give up! Give up your quest for perfection. Give up your need to know everything before it happens. Give up your compulsion to change other people. Give up your search for that special ritual, talisman, secret that will forever banish pain, depression and confusion from your life. It doesn’t exist.

You have a life and each life is a wild mixture of pleasure and pain. There is chaos and panic and broken promises. There is joy and unbelievable love and incredible adventures and interactions with other people that are going through the same scenarios but at different times then you. There is learning and there is unlearning. There are illusions and delusions and yet you have a bit of control.

You can control your attitude. You can dance to this wild crazy music instead of waiting for a slow song that’s familiar. You can cry and not hate yourself for crying. You can throw your mistakes and misgivings and self recriminations on the bonfire. You can just live.

That’s right. Give up your quest for perfection and just live. Accept the body you have. Accept your past. Accept your lack in any area. Accept your condition. Keep your dreams, your aspirations on your wish list but take whatever life gives you and good or ugly, devour it. Stop complaining. Stop blaming. Stop criticizing yourself or your choices. Stop looking for what’s wrong.

Strip off the illusion of security and protection. Pull a chair up to life’s table and say. “I’m hungry for more. Bring me what’s next on the menu. I’m going to devour whatever it is!”. An appetite for life. There’s the ticket.

(c)2013 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
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January 13th, 2014

Each and every one of us is dancing to a tune. The really big question is whose music are you dancing to each day? Maybe it’s a boss or maybe it’s a parent or friend or neighbor. Maybe it’s the news or the weather. Maybe it’s a sickness or disease. Maybe it’s a child or maybe it’s regrets. Maybe fear is calling the tune for you to dance to today.

If you are not dancing to your own music you most certainly are dancing to someone’s music because we are all dancing. A “friend” says something hurtful and you dance slow and painful. Your boss yells at you and you dance frightened and insecure. A parent criticizes and you dance small and tearful. The news reports something awful and you dance outraged and boisterous. You feel sick and you dance weak and weary. You get scared and you dance into a safe corner.

Everyone and everything in life is playing a tune and you will dance to the one that is the loudest at the moment UNLESS your music is louder. That’s right, you, like everything else in this world has a tune. With all the chaos of growing up and dancing to so many other people’s tunes you forgot yours. You turned yours way down so that you could learn about other tunes and you eventually forgot yours.

Today is a very special day. Today is the day you are reminded of your music. Today is the day that you get to turn it back up. Your music is about your needs. Your music is about your dreams. Your music is about your aspirations. Your music is about your desires and your pleasures. Your music is about how you want to live. Your music is about your uniqueness and your love. No other music can control you if your music is louder. Turn yours up!

(c)2013 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride
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