January 25th, 2016

You know that you have been blessed but then you start comparing. You know that you are strong and you have made it through so much but then you start comparing. You know that you are smart and have life experience but then you start comparing. 

The insecurities of life come not from what we lack but from our affinity to constantly compare every aspect of our life to someone who appears to do it or to have it better.

We look at someone who appears to have more wealth and feel our lack. We look at someone who appears to have a better body and feel out of shape. We look at someone who appears smarter and feel undereducated. We look at someone who appears to have robust health and we feel weak. We look at someone who appears to have better relationships and we feel wanting.

We constantly compare ourselves to the parts of many, many people but we compare them all to just one of us. How could we not come up lacking in such a process?

Constant comparison is the drain plug at the well of our self esteem. It is a foolish pastime that serves no one except the hucksters that prey upon those who are caught up in the web of constant comparisons.

If you see someone who appears to have more of something than you have, stay away from constant comparisons. Use them as motivation if you wish but always say “Bless you and your special talent”. When you honor the talents of another person you become immune to the despair that constant comparison brings with it.

Remember, everyone is born with certain talents. Talents that are specific to the life you are meant to live. Your talents were never meant for just comparison. You were meant to find joy, purpose and gratitude in them. Know that you are unique and wonderful beyond compare.

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Blue Dye

January 18th, 2016

Fill a jar with blue dye and drop something white into it. What happens? Try another color. Drop it in. What happens? Of course the answer is a big “Duh! Everything that you put into the blue dye turns blue!” So incredibly simple. 

Now try to remember a time when your mind was filled with worthlessness or anger or depression. What happened to every uplifting thought that you put in there? It was instantly dyed with what already filled your mind.

So how do you change your mind if everything you think is going to be affected by what is already an established mood? When I was young, the common reply to anger was to sit still and count to ten. It didn’t take away every trace of anger but it did lesson it quite a bit. Updated, taking ten conscious, slow breaths can drain the thoughts that dominate your mind but that’s not enough.

When you clear your mind like this a vacuum remains and if you don’t fill that vacuum quickly, whatever you just let go of will get sucked right back in. So, the golden key is that once you have drained most of the dominant thoughts it is imperative that you start and continue to fill your mind with that which uplifts you. Your favorite thoughts, music, colors, imaginations, positive memories, love, caring, laughter, upliftment, smiling, dancing, yoga, exercise, a cup of tea, a scent that you adore. All these and much more are perfect refills for your mind. A mind that is full of what uplifts you has no room for anything else.  

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January 11th, 2016

What is a loveless relationship? A loveless relationship is a rose bush that lives but never flowers. There may be some caring and concern but if love (there are no substitutes) is missing what is the purpose of being in a relationship? What is the purpose of wanting flowers with their beauty and intoxicating scents and settling for just green leaves?

​We are not just talking about marriage here. Loveless relationships are everywhere. Children and parents, grandparents, teachers, friends, coworkers are all relationships and sadly some are loveless. 

Let’s get one thing straight, you deserve love and it’s out there. It may not be where you are right this minute but it exists. When a person has been dying of thirst, they will drink the most toxic water just to alleviate their thirst. Don’t do that! Don’t run off with the first toxic person who espouses love. Wait for LOVE.

There are relationships that we are entrenched in such as parents and children for example but there is a way to get what you want regardless of your situation. 

​ Firstly, make yourself attractive. No, not makeup or muscles. Loving yourself, loving life, loving God, loving your body, loving the sun, moon and stars and all the puppies and kittens and everything else makes you very attractive.

Secondly, like attracts like. If you are filled with love you will attract and be attracted to loving people. When you start complaining about a lack of love, you drain the love you have and you become less attractive to loving people and more attractive to drained people who complain about a lack of love. 

A rosebush needs to be tended to often and it needs to be fed what it needs to blossom. Feed yourself with a positive expectancy and a positive outlook. Tend to yourself often and bloom, bloom, bloom. 

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Choose Wisely

January 4th, 2016

As this New Year begins, you have to ask yourself this question – “Am I going to be controlled by what happens around me or by what I choose inside of me?”

Are you going to let what happens somewhere in the world determine your happiness level or are you going to work on you? Are you going to fill yourself with so much love that everyone that comes into contact with you will be uplifted or are you going to bring them down to a state of worry and pessimism? Choose wisely, you legacy is being written as you decide.

Speaking of legacies, at your funeral and for years to come, all who knew you and loved you will not spend more than a minute and a half talking about how much you weighed or what you owned. They will be talking about how much you loved, about how you were always there to lend a helping hand or supportive word or two. They will talk about your smile and your laugh and the twinkle in your eye. They will talk about your passions and the things they learned from you. They will remember how you rose up as the voice of love and optimism when the inevitable dark nights came….or will they? 

Will they instead talk about your constant criticisms or your obsession with your finances or the news or the local gossip or your dark moods when the market dipped or your political party wasn’t elected? Will they talk about you as loving or not? Choose wisely, your legacy is being written as you decide.

What happens in your family, neighborhood, country and the world will always influence you but it is always your choice with how you will respond. The whisper of your heart will always be more powerful then the shouts of headlines but it all depends on which one you choose to make important.

Every moment of your life holds the possibility of a new beginning. Take this one right now. Choose to love more than you have been. Choose to send blessings where needed and help wherever you can but remember that your life is you first priority and you are, for good or bad, going to make an impact on many, many other lives. Yes, you will be remembered but how you will be remembered is entirely up to you. Choose wisely, your legacy is being written as you decide.  

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