December 29th, 2014

For far too long we have communicated with our unhappiness. We have learned that if we mope about, if we look downtrodden, if we look upset or agitated, someone will eventually ask us what is wrong.

We have learned not to announce what hurts us. We have learned not to respond to unkind words or gestures. We have learned to walk away rather than stand and correct someone.

​ Instead we look down, assume a poor posture and avoid eye contact. Monosyllabic answers can put the finishing touches on our portrayal of someone who is hurt. “Oh, please ask us why we look like this!”

Can we please unlearn this? Can we learn to speak of our hurt when it is felt rather than assuming something worthy of a theatrical performance? Can we drop the drama and speak up?

​ Can we learn to speak up for ourselves right away? Can we learn not to be dissuaded by the reply to our new found strength? “Oh, I was just joking” “Boy, you are sensitive” ” You’re making a big deal out of nothing” “You’ve got it all wrong” “You misunderstood what I meant”.

When our lack of courage to speak up becomes drama instead, that drama is a sign of weakness. That drama is the tell tale sign of one who cannot summon the strength to confront the issue, resolve the issue one way or another and put it behind them. That drama is the bit of debris left over from a crisis that the weak cling to, forgetting that they won’t drown if they let it go.

Let this be the year of getting stronger. Let this be the year that your feelings are not hidden behind sugar coated words or theatrics. Let this be the year that you speak your truth every time. Be kind but be honest. Now is a very good time to start being who you always wanted to be.

To a stronger, drama free you in 2015! Cheers!

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December 22nd, 2014

What would you do if I told you that you could walk into a famous casino and that it didn’t matter what games you played but that I promised you would walk out of there a rich person?

You would rush right into that casino and you would play every game. It wouldn’t matter if you lost at some because you knew that in the end you would walk out a so much richer.

Think about the similarities of that with your life for a minute.You rushed into this life because your spirit knew that you were going to have a great adventure. Every day of your past you won and every day you are here you keep on winning.

“How could that be?” You ask. “I have had great losses. I have had great setbacks. I have experienced great sadness.” Of course you have. You have lived. You have experienced. You have learned. You have grown. You have helped by giving great advice only because you suffered. You helped someone who was hurt because you know hurt.

You also learned the joy of pleasure, the beauty of art and music. You tasted great food and cool water. You fell in love with nature. A kitten, a puppy, a baby made you smile. You laughed at yourself. You laughed at life.

Yes, every day you lived, you won and you continue to win. Every day you won and continue to win a bit of knowledge, a bit of wisdom, a bit of understanding. Most days you find hope, you find joy and every day you find exactly what you are thinking about most.

When the time comes, you will leave here richer than you could imagine. In the meantime, play every game, smile at every circumstance and very be thankful for your winnings.

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The Force

December 15th, 2014

Guess what? Everything is not going to happen when you want it to happen or how you want it to happen.

Mentally we know this is a fact but every time something does not happen the way we planned, we completely forget that fact. “What did I do wrong?”, “Is this a test?”, “Is this payback for eating fast food?”

We are co-creators of our reality with a heavy emphasis on the “co” part. There is a force much greater than who we think we are. This is the force that keeps us breathing and digesting and a million other functions while we sleep.(Did you think that was just you doing it? Really?).

This is the force that turns you right when you were going to go wrong. This is the force that shuts your mouth when words that could hurt are trying to come out. This is the force that comforts you when no one is around.

Yes, you and I have plans but there is a force that has the final say as to when and how those plans work out. When you step back and see how that force has positively affected your life, gratitude is in order.

If your plans aren’t working out, it’s only because the force has a better idea.
May the force be with you. Oh, wait… that’s right, if you are alive it is always with you! Well then,enjoy!

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How Strong?

December 8th, 2014

How strong are you? Well, let’s see. You made it through your birth. That was no small feat. You made it through the first three years of your life. That included some scary moments but you made it. You left the daily security of home and ventured out into the world to school and to interactions with total strangers and you got stronger.

You fell in love and got your heart broken and you kept going. You wanted some things so badly that you thought you would die if you didn’t get them. You didn’t get them and you didn’t die. You got stronger.

You got sick and it changed the way you looked at life. You lost friends and relatives. Some because they left your life and some because they left this life. You cried and thought your world wouldn’t go on but it did. You got stronger.

You learned many things and believed many things and defended many things and then changed your mind. You got betrayed and lied to and you got weak for a bit but then you got even stronger.

You finally understood that loving yourself and being kind to yourself and forgiving yourself were the keys to being happy. It wasn’t really about anyone or anything else and you got a lot stronger.

How strong are you? You are stronger than you were in all of your yesterdays and now you are strong enough to help others find their strength. That’s really strong!

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December 1st, 2014

It suddenly starts raining while you are walking. What do you do? You run out of money before payday. What do you do? You lose a friend you thought you would have forever. What do you do?

The answer to all three questions is the same. You adapt. That’s right, whatever happens in your life whether it is expected or not, you will adapt. Sometimes it is easy and sometimes it is the hardest thing in this world but always, you adapt.

You are not a fragile creature. You are never without options and resources. You can never be broken. You may sometimes feel that circumstances have crushed you but you always come back even stronger. It’s true. Look back at your life, it is an amazing story of resilience and of adapting.

You may fear a coming obstacle but that is only because you have forgotten who you truly are. When you were growing up you feared that there were obstacles out there that would defeat you. Now you have lived and learned and you know that nothing can defeat you. You will always adapt. You will always make the best of every situation. You will always thrive no matter what. You are unbreakable.

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