October 11th, 2010
The easiest steps to feeling better begin with taking a quick inventory. 1) How do I feel right now? 2) What is the dominant theme of my thoughts so far today? 3) Is the way I am feeling right now adding to or subtracting from my happiness? 4) Am I willing to change?
We all want to be happy. Yes, even a grouch wants to be happy. The problem is that as soon as we start feeling unhappy, no matter what the reason, we start thinking unhappy thoughts. When we think unhappy thoughts, our mind starts producing an endless number of them. It actually thinks it is helping us by giving us plenty of reinforcements to what we are focused on. If we keep listening to these thoughts we will continue to feel worse and that will generate more thoughts and,well, you get the picture.
The way back to happiness starts when you begin TALKING to yourself in an upbeat way with love and caring. You must stop LISTENING to the voice that has been generated by the unhappy thoughts . You have to become your own cheerleader. You have to be to yourself the great advice giver you are to everyone else. You have to keep talking to yourself in an upbeat way until the tsunami of negative thoughts starts to subside. Then your mind will make the switch and start giving you thoughts to reinforce your new state of mind and Voila! happiness is yours to behold and enjoy once again. Go ahead, give it a try. It’s worth it and so are you.