Pillow Talk

What do you do when you’ve come to the end of your rope? What do you do when you find yourself at the end of your credit? Or maybe the end of a relationship. Or maybe you’ve been sick for too long. Or maybe all of your friends have disappeared. Or maybe you’ve just lost your sparkle. Or you can’t shake that mood. Or maybe you just can’t see anything positive coming up anytime soon. What do you do?

This may seem a little nutty but it works every time! First, write down on a piece of paper all the questions that you can’t find answers for right now. Second, go into your bedroom and close the door. Set a couple of pillows upright at the head of the bed and then put a piece of your clothing on the pillows. It doesn’t have to be an exact replica of you but make it seem good enough to imagine it is you. Third, put the paper with the questions in front of the pillows. Use all of your imagination and imagine that the pillows are you and you’ve written down those questions. See, imagine or visualize as best as you can.

Now pick up the paper and give your best, clearest advice on each question. There is no “you” answering these questions. The only “you” is sitting in front of you. When we give advice to someone in need, we automatically draw from something deep inside. There is great truth and clarity and insight there. We cannot do it for ourselves when we are upset or depressed but we can always do it for another. The truth is, we give great advice because we want to help others and we never judge another as harshly as we judge our self. We give unbiased advice to someone in need without ever bringing up something from their past but we rarely do it for ourselves.

Use your imagination, suspend your disbelief and open yourself with a positive expectation for the answers you seek. You really can help yourself. It is only when you run out of rope that you learn that you are truly a creator of solutions. Get the answers. Make the changes.

(C) 2011 All Rights Reserved, Patrick McBride


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